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How To Stay In Control Of Your Divorce With A Divorce Attorney


May 15, 2010  

You want three things in your divorce lawyer; expertise, reliability, and the right attitude. Ideally a divorce attorney should be spending half their time dealing with divorce cases and preferably one who is a good mediator. However, none of this will be any good without your complete trust in their abilities.

Attorneys that specialize in mediation cases will be able to give you sound advice for out of court settlements but if a court appearance is necessary, they will need experience. Although there will be tasks you need to perform on your own, if you need to speak to your divorce lawyer, write down exactly what help you want from them.

This is best done by knowing exactly what you intend to speak to them about and write down questions and answers in addition to when, and the length of the conversation on each occasion. Keep a file for all your notes, letters and documents so do as much as possible on the phone and by mail to keep the office time at a minimum.

Remember you divorce attorney is there for their expertise in the field and not to act as a counsellor, you should hopefully be able to use people close to you for that. The behaviour of your spouse, unless pertinent to the divorce, is of no concern to your divorce lawyer and will only distract them from the task at hand.

Being in control of your own case and your own life is the single best thing you can do, so it is essential that you have a lawyer who can work on that basis. It is important they know any decisions regarding the divorce are yours to make and they are there for their knowledge and experience in providing legal recommendations. Let them know that copies of any correspondence relating to the case will need to be sent to you along with any other information and if you contact them, to reply as quickly as possible.

Not all cases need a courtroom to be decided upon so you could employ a lawyer just to help you with a marital settlement, legal information or advice. After you have organized all your facts and read about how the law works in your case, if you still have questions about the law or the likely outcome, write all your questions down and ask your lawyer. There is no reason your divorce lawyer cannot be used purely in a consultancy role to help draw up a marital settlement and if need be can step in if things do not go according to plan.

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